It has been a while since i posted but my mind has been in so many places.
I told her not to marry him!!! Am i a bad friend for saying it, an honest friend for always telling her the truth? I don't know.
I am talking about the one friend who has always been there for me, the one who knows my every little secret. They have been in each others lives for over 15 years. He was her first real love and was there for her when her marriage ended, He has been a wonderful step - father to her daughter, but I can't shake the feeling he is not the same person he was, that there is something deeper going on (sleeping with an ex-coworker).
He finally proposed a couple of months ago (just as she was about to leave)... She said yes, rang me to tell me...my response was "what, why?"
I truly believe there is a difference between loving someone and really being in love with someone. I know her like the back of my hand, I think she loves him for all that they have been through and not in love with man that he has become and i really think it will be a mistake so i told her.
I have this feeling it might come back to bite me in the arse even though she told me she loves me for being honest.
Don't get me wrong i think he is a nice person, just not the person for her anymore.
I will be by her side if she ends it and standing next to her as she marries him. The choice is hers. I still don't know... Good/Bad friend??
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Oh man ! That's such a hard place to be in.
ReplyDeleteYou want her to be happy, so you bite your lip.
But then when she comes to you crying (hypothetically) you don't want to say " I told you so".
I guess the best thing you can do is not to say anything at all and hope that if she asks you for advice, she will honestly listen to it.
Hard when you have been friends for so long.